Parenting a comedy of errors

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Raise your hand if your parenting skills lack finesse and maturity at times. If you did not raise your hand, you should be blogging and sharing your secret! Parenting is truly a comedy of errors, with laughter almost always being preceded by frustration, and sometimes tears.

I often get pretty annoyed by individuals who seem to undermine the demands of modern day parenthood. There seems to be a perception that most parents have greater interest in their own needs, than their children’s. In some instances, this tends to be true; but most parents toil day and night in order for their children to have better lives.

The dilemma I face right now, is raising two girls and a boy. The boy has typical middle child characteristics and is not a hothead,at all! The girls however, are like chalk and cheese – more in personality than age. The eldest is more reserved and somewhat of a loner. The six year old is the total opposite – a serial hugger, articulate (with a vocabulary that speaks volumes!) girlie girl. This poses a challenge to me especially when giving an instruction. To get the maximum results, I have to think of the best way to the express my expectation, without any ambiguity.

I wish it was as easy as ordering a bottomless coffee at a cafe. It’s much closer to that dreaded visit to the dentist!

EXECUTION TIME!!!

The instruction usually consists of 3 phases, much like doing laundry wash, rinse and hang. At this point I might add that some would perceive my laundering tactics pretty basic, be rest assured that soak, rinse and dry is totally part of the package!

  • To get things started, I generally ask the one whom I know hates doing chores, like dishes.
  • They envision themselves as being the clever one, if you start you finish first.
  • The one who has a reputation for doing a thorough job, is responsible for phase 2.
  • The final phase is given to the fault finder, this way all three of them are bound to doing their chores well and understand, mom’s interpretation of teamwork.
  • The soak cycle is moaning about having to do chores.
  • Rinse cycle is the time they waste bickering about the quality and quantity of each other’s chores.
  • Dry cycle,realising that you have no choice but to do it!

For some this might appear to be ‘much ado about nothing’ but there comes a time in each parent’s life when you have to outsmart your offspring or bear the consequences. I’d rather bare my teeth in a satisfied grin, that their chores are actually getting done instead of regretting the fact that never taught them anything other than slouching in front of the television!

Happy parenting!

 

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Values for my beautiful black princesses

As a mother I recently realised that I have failed to acknowledge the goodness and beauty in my children, especially my two beautiful daughters.

In my quest to perfect my parenting I resolved to instill stepping stones which I regard as useful tools for raising daughters.

I wish to teach them the following values:

1. The blackness in you is priceless.

2. Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, it’s in the heart of the giver.

3. Never forget how to forgive and forget, you will need it more often than never.

4. Set God’s standard for your life, it’s not trend based and highly unlikely to change.

5. God created you as an individual – whatever sets you apart; is your blessing no matter what the world thinks.

6. Guard your heart and your gift.

                          From your mother, who will always love you imperfectly.
 

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