There are simply no words which can explain the stress a parent goes through about the well-being of their children.
Apart from the usual concerns that parents may have – such as their health, schooling, and the cost of raising children in an ever changing and demanding society – there are some inexplicable concerns which lack coherent articulation. These will sound like the ramblings of a lunatic, if one even attempts to explain to any person, yet they are directly linked to our own deep hidden fears. These unspoken fears take a larger toll on our parental well-being then the ability to provide in a child’s basic human needs.
Is this fear irrational? Is it fuelled by the norms and standards of the modern generation? Such fears remain irrational for as long as we do not dig into ourselves to find its source. And, yes it will be fuelled by outside factors – if we continue to look outside and try and measure ourselves by what others are doing or saying. Our solution lies within. Yes, we make the ultimate decision about what is right, moral or acceptable in our opinion. That is our greatest privilege, as parents – the ability to make decisions on our children’s behalf. It may not always carry the consent of those outside our family structure, but it has to be good enough to raise respectable, responsible and law-abiding individuals.
Mistakes will always be an integral part of the process but, I refuse to expect any parent to crucify themselves to meet the approval of society, whilst sacrificing their children in order to fit into systems set by some unknown individuals with cookie-cutter-syndrome!
Five ways to beat parental stress:
1. Talk to someone – spouse, friend, religious leader. Open and honest dialogue about what bothers us, gives better insight into the depth of our concerns. With the right support, it is possible for us to meet our fear head-on and hopefully gain the knowledge of identifying the triggers and obtaining skills to deal with it.
2. Reach out to your child. This can be very easy or extremely difficult, depending on the relationship one has with the child or their age.
3. Meet your child where they are; our reasoning power is far greater than that of a child – and their childlike reasoning capacity might just open your eyes to who they really are.
4. Take time to acknowledge your mistakes and forgive yourself for placing undue pressure on yourself.
5. Make time for fun and laughter!
Source: Parenting Stress